What Not To Ask a Pregnant Woman


I remember everything about all of my pregnancies, from seeing those wonderful lines confirming what I had already been suspecting to the many endless nights of no sleep because I had morning sickness 24/7. We all have the warm fuzzy pregnancy memories, and the not-so-fuzzy memories. But what I really could have done without were those questions. You know what I am talking about - the annoying, stupid, and sometimes really personal questions that people would ask.

I would get asked things like, "Oh, another boy? I bet you really wanted a girl this time. Sorry." Seriously? How about saying 'How Wonderful! Boys are amazing!' hmm?

And then there would be the dreaded weight questions. Please. That was a magic number discussed only by me and my doctor.

And the worst of all: "Did you really plan/want to get pregnant again?" That question, especially asked by virtual strangers who somehow confused my pregnant belly as an invitation to discuss my personal life, would make me feel so many things. But most of all, I would feel upset with myself for not being more firm and simply not engaging with strangers when they felt the need to ask questions about my pregnancy.

Is it just me, or is it hard to be rude back to people who are kind of being rude themselves?

I loved being pregnant, and when all is said and done, and that warm sweet little human being was snuggled in my arms, nothing else mattered. Not the morning sickness, not the weight gain, nor the stretch marks, and especially not the annoying questions.

None of it.

But if I had to do it over again, I wish I could have had some sort of a board I could have held up when strangers approached, with something along the lines of -

"Please don't ask me (insert questions you do not want to be asked here) because I will not be answering, thank-you!" And no, you may not rub my belly.


What questions do you wish people would not have asked you when you were pregnant?




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